1. Verbal / Non – Verbal:
Give your first response timely.
Attempt all Questions
2. Picture Perception Test:
See the picture in detail
Read questions asked carefully – No. of People, their moods etc.
3. Thematic Apperception Test:
Create a Hero and his Team.
The Hero to face some difficult task / problem and should have solutions and alternatives
Bring Officer Like Qualities in Hero
Maximum use of Resources that are available
No Negative story
It is your personality that is being reflected through Hero.
4. Word Association Test:
Do not write negative sentences
Avoid use of “I”
No idioms or Phrases
5. About Yourself
Precise to the point
Parents – Consult you in important family decisions
Love Affection / Regards
Teachers – Teachers give responsibilities for important work
Friends – Trust in You and should share their secrets
Strength – Academics (eg sports, co-curricular activities)
Weakness - general weakness not involving moral values
6. Situation Reaction Test: Be natural and give your natural answers.
No Negative Answers should be there.
If you know your evolutionary sciences than you know there is no escaping the fact that natural sensual pleasure is united with life sustaining needs. it is important to understand that children have to grow and develop in many different areas in order to become healthy, happy, productive members of adult society. There are four main areas or channels in which children grow: physical, psychological and cognitive, social and emotional, and sexuality and gender identity.
Sexual experiences with the other sex are common during childhood. Children often kiss, touch and play doctor. Sexual contacts with the same sex are more common than opposite sex contacts. Like adults, children appear to have sexual thoughts. Sexual aggressiveness consists of the desire to master another by force rather than by wooing. The predominant sensual impulses of a child is "to see and show nudity." This stage is exhibitionistic and voyeuristic in nature. Such pleasure may not seem so surprising if one realizes that cruelty is a primitive vestige that remains in the human sexual instinct.
If influences (molesters, heroes and heroines in today's movies, perverts, indecent phone callers, etc) overexpose a child about seduction, it can cause the child to linger in these early sensual stages and an arrest in further sexual growth may even occur. when that happens and sexual growth ceases, then "seeing and showing" becomes the main sexual aim. when a child gets to watch people mate (whether supervised or not), the sex act is invariably regarded as a sadistic subjugation--an abuse--of the female. in later life an excessive amount of sadism and masochism may be relied upon to express their sexuality. a girl child may grow up to become a nymphomaniac where the sex act is merely a compulsive urge to repeat her early seductions. it is also early characteristics of the psychopath, which is an individual who has no concern for anyone but himself (considerate only till it serves some purpose for him).
Television (contrary to what people expect) generally doesn't informs the audience of the entire truth by omitting the less interesting parts and tend to emphasise on the dramatic, generally violent stories and images to capture and sustain its audience, under the facade of keeping us informed. Children’s programmes especially have a tendency to amplify stereotypes, presenting "goodies" and "baddies”. The confirmation of these stereotypes may make children feel more comfortable. But mass media itself also present an enhancing common stereotyped (read oversimplified and highly generalized) picture of life, which can often lead to undesirable prejudices within not just national, but international, society. Mainly considering the consumer habits of the public, advertising is probably one of the most influential items about Mass Media. Advertisements play on our vulnerabilities and encourage us to buy products we don't really need.
In pre-adolescent, the dormant sexual energies in the child do not disappear but are redirected by the mind and are used to serve other purposes. For example, during latency, some redirected sexual energy is used for acquiring knowledge. This is why at this age a child is most educable. there is also the strengthening of mental barriers that control raw instinctual perverse sexual urges or impulses like shame, disgust, morality, aesthetics and so on. but the most important achievement of all is the development of the capacity for compassion.
Puberty is the result of sex hormones developed by the body, and these hormones affect the development of organs like the breasts or the penis. Those hormones are also acting on the brain and causing the beginnings of sexual desires that the child will not have experienced earlier, at least not in that same way. Freud believed in the pursuit of satisfying these sexual urges, the child may experience failure or reprimands from its parents or society and may thus come to associate anxiety with that particular source of the libidinal drive. this turns to fixation and it persists into adulthood and underlies the personality structure and psychopathology, including neurosis, hysteria and personality disorders.
Adolescent masturbation is a central issue in both normal psychic development and pathogenesis. Most infants probably explore and fondle their own genitals. Not goal-directed or systematic play in the same casual way that they do with their ears, noses, fingers and toes. As a child grows older, masturbation to orgasm becomes more and more likely. Most have the biological capacity to derive pleasure from self-stimulation. a child who feels punished for sexual exploration while growing up generally begins to associate negative feelings with sex.
The erotic feelings and behaviour of adolescent girls follows a much different course and not centred in the genitalia which is the case for adolescent boys. They found that students, especially girls, who were verbally abused by teachers or rejected by their peers, were more likely than other students to engage in sex by the end of class 7. A girl may look and behave like a woman but she is not quiet emotionally ready as an adult is expected to be.
A teenage girl's eroticism may be as intense as the boy's but involve fantasies and dreams involving kisses and caresses, the wish to love and to be loved and sometimes thoughts of having a child. Some sex therapists believe that girls who do not masturbate miss an important step in their sexual development, since masturbation provides an opportunity to learn how one's body responds to erotic stimulation. however, intrusions of others into their sexual life arouse intense feelings of shame and resentment because human sexuality is that sex is an intimate affair.
Teens are smart and know how to outwit parents. Some teen girls are turning to the unthinkable to express their hurt and frustration with the issues they face. they are cutting themselves for two reasons: to outwardly express how badly they are feeling on the inside, and to re-direct the pain of the self-hate they are feeling. And it's not that they are just "angry teenagers" like some parents may think.
Today most of what we learn about sex, crime and violence comes from mainstream media and porn. it negatively affects the public both consciously and subconsciously. In visual media, violence is shown and is seen as a means of resolving problems, and reaching goals. This causes desensitisation and stimulation, especially on the immature minds. Characters that are likely to be imitated are shown not to take responsibility for their actions but are repeatedly recognized as heroes, due to the gaining of respect and numerous other rewards through their actions. This distorts people’s understandings of our society, and moral values as fantasy is presented as if it’s the real thing.
Now when there is an over tolerance or acceptance of the belief that orgasm achieved by any means is beneficial, it can lead young people into becoming polymorphous perverts--that is, mechanical robots capable of engaging in any kind of sex act with indifference and without guilt. These are the characteristics of people who are prostitutes and pimps.
We are trained that young men are knights and young women are virginal maidens, and even after marriage that formula, in a sense, continues: Men must get dirty in battle, women must stay pure at home. females are told from birth that recreational sex is wrong. When they get older, they are told it is for procreation. When they are seroconvert they are told that they are carriers of virus and should abstain. All throughout, they are convinced to how, when, and with whom we should be engaging in sex. Women throughout the ages have been punished for exhibiting their sexuality, while at the same time, ionized as sex-symbols. they have been treated, and taught to see themselves, as victims of male prowess. they are taught to look at their sexual behaviour as submission to, rather than desire for, sex. It is much easier to see yourself as victims rather than participants. imagine the idea that a woman may be a healthy, sexually active person living with HIV disease is an anachronism. It is unfathomable. By the mere fact of her having this sexually transmitted disease, she is seen as "dirty" and/or "dangerous".
There is no right or wrong reason to have sex if both parties are willingly engaging in the act. Adults have sex for a myriad of reasons. Sometimes it is out of anger. Sometimes it is to win someone's love or attention. Sometimes it's just to get off, and, of course, sometimes it is to procreate. Sometimes we "think with our dicks" (or, in a woman's case, clits).
There is no perfect age boundary is these things but after a point we become the person who we are for the rest of our lives. as we age we rarely tend to change. there is also no changing human nature but we can learn. we have a brain capable of compassion and conscience. it is a highly complex organ and has a processing capacity of 0.1 quadrillion instructions per second (the fastest super computer in the world is capable of handling only 1.026 quadrillion calculations per second). There are about 100 billion neurons in the human brain, the same number of stars in our galaxy. True, there are some who are born with superior intellectual abilities, but it doesn't mean that the rest of the human population cannot develop or awaken one's brain potential. Superior brain power does not depend on one's brain structure, inheritance of intellect from parents, or more. Rather, it is on learning how to tap your brain's unlimited potential and capabilities into activation or dormancy. For human sexuality to be complete there must be a confluence, a coming together, of the affectionate and physical components of the sexual instinct. When the affectionate needs are weakened and physical sex is all that remains which is unhealthy for any human. A proper sexual maturation and development of conscience, makes invaluable contributions to the individual and his civilization.
(note: TOUGH-LOVE = being compassionately, consistently, unambiguously, passively strongly to hold your ground in a way that compels him or her to take responsibility for his actions and make changes in behaviour. used for indifference, outright defiance, self-harming behaviours, blatant dishonesty and criminal behaviour.)
In an abusive family everyone loses to some degree the ability to decide one's own thoughts, feelings and behaviour. Emotional abuse is usually more psychologically damaging than physical abuse. also seeing a parent abused is child abuse. in most cases the abusers, victims and children lack genuine self-esteem. abusers addicted to blaming think that they are merely reacting to everybody else. TOUGH-LOVE demands are likely to be the only way to help stop abusing behaviour that is making him lose his compassion and conscience. abusers from the time they were young children, they've had a more or less constant sense of dread that things will go badly and they will fail to cope. So they try to control their environment to avoid that terrible feeling of failure and inadequacy. But the cause of their anxiety is with them, not in their environment.
Not all emotional abuse takes the form of shouting or criticism. More common forms of emotional abuse are "stonewalling" and "disengaging." They can break your spirit, cripple your confidence, even make you physically ill. They do not overtly put you down but stonewalls instead and would just not try. Nevertheless, they punishes you for disagreeing by refusing to even think about your perspective and making you feel like you don't count. "Do whatever you want, just leave me alone." He might refuse to discuss your upset feelings by saying, "You're just trying to start an argument!" or claiming he has no idea what you're talking about.
Whether overt or silent, all forms of abuse are failures of compassion. It actually would be less hurtful if the abuser never cared about how you felt. But suddenly a person switches on and then it feels like betrayal when a person doesn't care or try to understand. You sometimes think, "What's wrong with me? An abuser needs to see you as his perfect mate, an extension of himself so he puts you in a pedestal and then spontaneously separates the real you into his worst enemy when he needs to hate you. Most abusers feel guilt and remorse, at least in the first years of the abuse. Far from encouraging signs, guilt and remorse can actually lead to more abuse.
Now you can begin to understand even stuff like why sisters fight, why some women prefer to work for men rather than for women, and other highly subjective cases of woman/woman cruelty. what's the reason for mothers stymie daughters, biological sisters competing with each other, girlfriends gossip maliciously, women bosses exert arbitrary and capricious authority, backstabbing by feminist colleagues, sadistic gynaecologists, battering lesbians. today we understand that the "enemy," or the "cause" of female suffering and subjugation is no longer definable in terms of the "Other" gender, and its masculine tyranny or patriarchal destructiveness, but potentially lurks within the bounded bonds of every woman's interpersonal experience with other women. despite huge gains in public visibility, female power has been hampered by a rarely acknowledged reality: women often betray, hurt, and humiliate one another. This is not about men vs. women or women vs. women: It's about people learning to be fair. it’s not about a bossy women being "Penis Envy" or a sensitive man being "Womb Envy". Prejudice must first be acknowledged before it can be resisted or overcome. More than men, women depend upon one another for emotional intimacy and bonding, and exclusionary and sexist behaviour enforces female conformity and discourages independence and psychological growth.
Unlike love which masks the differences between people, compassion makes us sensitive to the individual strengths and vulnerabilities of other people. It lets us appreciate our differences. The most dangerous aspect of abuse is not the nervous reactions like shouting, name-calling, criticism or other demeaning behaviour; but in how you react to it.
In toxic situations you need to get out... especially when you have after years of abuse— are left with without an income or job skills, no place to go (having been isolated from family and friends), and terrified of a husband who could use his means to get custody of the kids. find a way to get yourself and the child out and far away.
when the other person is not in love with you. it’s time to leave. You'll be hurt, you'll feel broken-hearted, but you'll be better off in the long run.
You need to leave also when a relationship feels scary, cold, or flat-out unfriendly—and you're staying because you dream it will change or because "it's better than being alone." it will turn destructive. it’s time to leave. Your best decision will come from looking as deeply into yourself as you do the relationship. you're either unwilling or unable to do what is necessary to improve things, or if your efforts are insufficient and he's not able to make up the difference. By staying, once you've decided the relationship is really over, means being buried alive. Face your decision with courage, kindness, and a galloping leap of faith.
It's the conflict between parents, not the actual divorce, that puts children at risk. they are going to feel insecure and unsafe, maybe even think they are to blame but it's a major red flag when children are afraid to express affection towards one parent in front of the other. Let your kids know adults make mistakes, what you have done wrong, whether in your marriage, or in dealing with the divorce, and make a new commitment to them. Not talking to your kids about your divorce can cause them to suppress their emotions and shut down emotionally. On average, they expect failure in their lives. Some experience a strong fear of change. on the positive side they strongly value love, marriage and parenthood, despite being wary of commitment and turn remarkably compassionate and attuned to others' feelings (specially for their siblings).
Yet even after divorce children can still have the very best that both parents have to offer. each parent has to learn both discipline and emotional understanding—responsibilities they likely once split-up. The blame game will crush kids. When you say things like, "It would be nice if your dad attended an occasional school function," the hurt can run just as deep as name-calling. Kids don't make the distinction.
Twice as many women suffer from depression as men. Men and women are equally likely to develop it. Its sufferers endure cycles of devastating lows and euphoric and compulsive highs. People with bipolar disorder have three times the alcohol and drug abuse rate. The mania, or the highs, can lead to destructive, extreme and reckless behaviour including violence, aggression, compulsive shopping and/or sexual promiscuity. The irrational highs are followed by periods of deep, paralyzing depression. Many bipolar people commit suicide.
In many ways, your enemies can teach you much more than your friends. You can't have control over what happens to you in this moment, but you do have control over your response to it, and over the context in which you put it. There is no tragedy in life, and there are no victims. In this consideration lies your own empowerment. The only way out is to take responsibility, open your heart and Conquer Your Fears. We all have an internal conversation with ourselves. Don't tell yourself that you have lost your mind and don't think you have been humiliated. Spend more time focusing on what you can do. Do not isolate yourself. Talk to people—talking is the most healing thing you can do. Sometimes the relationship you need to rescue is the one with yourself. You have to be your own friend first. Find things to do that feel rewarding or refreshing. Give yourself permission to express your anger, your sadness—whatever emotions you may be experiencing. Grief is a process to go through, not a destination in which to wallow. In a process, you keep putting one foot in front of the other. Days turn into weeks, weeks turn into months... each little step is part of the process of healing your heart.
There's nothing like having good friends— people who knows you better than anyone else. Somehow, though, with the demands of our daily lives even the best of friends lose touch. People change over time, so keep an open mind. Rebuild the trust and have fun. The hardest part: pick up the phone! Everything will come naturally after that courageous move.
Since friendships require an investment of time and energy, you'll want to choose the people you spend time with wisely. asking yourself the following questions to find out if a relationship is toxic or not:
- Am I able to be myself with this person? Do I feel accepted?
- Are they critical or judgmental of me?
- Does the relationship provide an even give-and-take exchange of energy?
- Do I feel upbeat and energized when I'm around this person, or depleted and drained?
- Does this person share my values? My level of integrity?
- Is this person committed to our relationship?
- Can this person celebrate my success?
- Do I feel good about myself when I'm with this person?
Infidelity is about how a person feels about himself. The affair is like a vanity mirror, because they love how it makes them feel; and the marriage is like a makeup mirror where all their flaws are shown, and they feel they can't be who they want to be. After being married for many years, many women find that they just aren't sexually attracted to their husbands anymore. Some of these women, suffering from both low desire and sexual response difficulties, consider infidelity to determine if the blame lies in their partner or in themselves. It is unlikely that having an affair will help you find the answers you seek. people don't plan to be unfaithful. It's only after they get into a relationship and their needs aren't being met—they don't feel accepted—that they search to fill the void. Most people who have affairs are living an emotional divorce and just haven't filled out the paperwork yet. They become desperate, bitter. people change, and their needs change perhaps that explains your lack of interest in reconnecting with your first love. love can die.
Abusers can recover with courage id they build a conditioned response to help them automatically convert anxiety, resentment, and anger into compassion. In other words, compassion will once again become their natural response to the distress of loved ones, like it was when they were young children, and, in most cases, like it was when they first got married. Then by habit, the recovering abuser will begin to see his anxiety, resentment, and anger as a kind of "gas gauge" telling him that his core value is on empty, and he needs to fill it up by increasing his value and respect for his wife and children. Most important, the recovering abuser must be especially compassionate to his wife's post-traumatic stress reactions. Now that she feels safer and more confident, a lot of anger and anxiety about past abuse will begin to surface at unpredictable times. The recovering abuser must understand that his wife will not be able to trust him completely for a long time, no matter how much she tries. Love and compassion are unconditional, but trust, once it is betrayed by abuse, has to be earned, gradually and slowly. Recovery from abuse is never a 50-50 deal; the former abuser has to do at least 90 percent of the work.