"What would you be glad you did--even if you failed?"
To strive for perfection is to kill love because perfection does not recognize humanity. ~ Marion Woodma
"If we take the time to heal oneself than we mirror the change we want to see." ~ Koelle Simpson
Creativity doesn’t necessarily happen between 9am to 5pm. Growing aspirations for more expensive lifestyles, reflected in rapidly increasing house prices, are dominating some people’s lives. The desire to stay in this race leads many to work longer and harder, often at the cost of other aspects of their well-being. Unsustainable work practices and poor working conditions are a significant part of the overall viability of the profession into the future. We suffer and sacrifice leisure time for competitive desire or conformity work culture or fear of not being viewed as a team player. We give up today in the hope that one day start my own practice. We become habituated to the stresses and pressures, perhaps until a health problem forces us to consider alternatives.
Too many people feel like they need to work harder when they struggle to focus. But this strategy is likely to backfire. When we can’t focus at work because of distractions, it may lead us to feel stressed about not being productive, which then causes us to focus less, further feeding the cycle. Short-term stress raises cortisol levels (the so-called stress hormone) for short periods and can jump-start our adrenalin and motivate us to perform more efficiently in response to impending deadlines. Long-term stress, however, can lead to prolonged increases in cortisol and can be toxic to the brain. Fortunately, there are things we can do to break the cycle. Pay attention to the causes of your stress and inability to focus and then take actions that promote improvements in the specific brain functions that drive concentration and awareness. ~Kandi Wiens
We expect the world from people we love, and we do not wish to lower our expectations. We want our parents to embrace us, to tell us they know we were good children, to take back their hurtful criticisms, to give us their praise, to undo the favouritism they've shown to a brother or sister. Once you're feeling that pain or emotion, try and connect it to your past to uncover where that pattern of pain began. Now you need to forgive your parents and let them in again. Strange as it may seem, a grudge is a kind of clinging, a way of not separating, and when we hold a grudge against a parent, we are clinging not just to the parent, but more specifically to the bad part of the parent. Along the way, we may have to express our protest, we may have to be angry and resentful, we may even have to punish our parents by holding a grudge. But when we get there, the forgiveness we achieve will be a forgiveness worth having.
Identification is the key here – working out what the thought is trying to tell you and where it came from is a sure fire way to either own it or dispel it. When you see the fears as separate from you, not part of you, this makes it easier to let them go. You should know that your peace and your joy are products of your own making; while you may feel the world like nobody else, you are also capable of managing it. Trust that what you are experiencing right now is absolutely perfect for your growth. Be empowered, believe in yourself, and practice practice practice. The way to developing and changing yourself and other is by following these steps:-
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New behaviour becomes new positive thought patterns which can eventually become the dominant pathway. The must develop Courage and Kindness to the areas that are in pain, caring for yourself as you would care for a small child i.e having true confidence, humility and consideration for others. You need to learn to grow self-compassion in order to be able to be kind.
If you pretend, you will be out, sooner or later, until you really change. Don’t try to outdo anyone else or it can backfire. It may mean asking for help or scaling back, which can big a huge challenge. This may involve redefining some boundaries in your career and relationships. Invest in yourself; it will benefit you and those around you. You need to be patient with yourself as you develop yourself. We also tend to learn better when we teach others.
- Internal desired needs to provide to your (overt) hungry sub-conscious (to grow positively in life):
2. Variety (some variety brings the spark back into your eyes, too much variety make life dangerous)
3. Significant Work (some two-person collaborations from time-to-time with people who are not your boss/senior)
4. Love & Connections (with people who you mostly don't need to make happy & who make you happy)
- External desired needs to provide to your (hidden) hungry sub-conscious in order to find happiness in life):
6. Contributing (through social organizations)
Don't forget to write a meaningful letter to your child—seal your legacy with love. Sometimes, the greatest gift of all is the gift of memories—they last forever and the fun of "opening" them never disappears!
To connect with you own child, begin taking your son out to breakfast as a weekly ritual. The breakfast had no agenda other than to give you and your son some time together. Repeatedly asking your children questions about their lives and sharing what happens in your life away from home will help your children open up. Be persistent and patient.
By choosing books with topics that adolescents deal with, the book discussions will create an opportunity for everyone to talk openly about important issues, including developing sexuality and relationships with friends. when your children leave give them gifts that symbolize freedom and responsibility—a basic cookbook etc. encourage them to check in at least once a week, whether it's with an e-mail update every Friday or a Sunday morning phone call.