"What would you be glad you did--even if you failed?"
To strive for perfection is to kill love because perfection does not recognize humanity. ~ Marion Woodma
Creativity doesn’t necessarily happen between 9am to 5pm. Growing aspirations for more expensive lifestyles, reflected in rapidly increasing house prices, are dominating some people’s lives. The desire to stay in this race leads many to work longer and harder, often at the cost of other aspects of their well-being. Unsustainable work practices and poor working conditions are a significant part of the overall viability of the profession into the future. We suffer and sacrifice leisure time for competitive desire or conformity work culture or fear of not being viewed as a team player. We give up today in the hope that one day start my own practice. We become habituated to the stresses and pressures, perhaps until a health problem forces us to consider alternatives.
We expect the world from people we love, and we do not wish to lower our expectations. We want our parents to embrace us, to tell us they know we were good children, to take back their hurtful criticisms, to give us their praise, to undo the favouritism they've shown to a brother or sister. Once you're feeling that pain or emotion, try and connect it to your past to uncover where that pattern of pain began. Now you need to forgive your parents and let them in again. Strange as it may seem, a grudge is a kind of clinging, a way of not separating, and when we hold a grudge against a parent, we are clinging not just to the parent, but more specifically to the bad part of the parent. Along the way, we may have to express our protest, we may have to be angry and resentful, we may even have to punish our parents by holding a grudge. But when we get there, the forgiveness we achieve will be a forgiveness worth having.
Don't forget to write a meaningful letter to your child—seal your legacy with love. Sometimes, the greatest gift of all is the gift of memories—they last forever and the fun of "opening" them never disappears!
To connect with you own child, begin taking your son out to breakfast as a weekly ritual. The breakfast had no agenda other than to give you and your son some time together. Repeatedly asking your children questions about their lives and sharing what happens in your life away from home will help your children open up. Be persistent and patient.
By choosing books with topics that adolescents deal with, the book discussions will create an opportunity for everyone to talk openly about important issues, including developing sexuality and relationships with friends. when your children leave give them gifts that symbolize freedom and responsibility—a basic cookbook etc. encourage them to check in at least once a week, whether it's with an e-mail update every Friday or a Sunday morning phone call.