"What would you be glad you did--even if you failed?" "There is a common myth in society that we have to earn or prove our worth by ticking off a certain number of external achievements — like having a large house, successful career, impressive partner and acceptable body shape. If you base your self worth on the external world, you’ll never be capable of self-love. The truth is your worth is innate — you were born enough. You are a changing as a person from who you were so leave the past but your true inner self is of divine origins and you can never be anything less than that. You did not come here to prove — you came here to play and laugh and love and learn and express and rise and create your wildest dreams. Replace self-criticism with praise and acknowledge, and not only will your confidence grow, but you will blossom into your full potential, because flowers bloom best with nourishment and love, not judgment." Our prolonged heightened ‘peak’ experiences can have an unbalancing effect, making us tired and restless during the day and trouble sleeping at night. As we age, our bodies change. These changes impact the length and quality of our sleep. As we age, our bodies secrete less of two important sleep hormones: melatonin and growth hormone. Without good sleep, brain functions 40% less at work and increases depression, anxiety and obesity. You are also unfocused and forgetful. You not only lose control over your mood but also the ability to pay attention, solve problems and be creative. It becomes dangerous for everyone on the road since it gets hard to remain alert and responsive (especially, like me, if you have to ride a bike to get to work). Is it really right that burnout and related mental health issues are seen as the inevitable price that we pay for doing inspired work? The desire to stay in this race leads many to work longer and harder, often at the cost of other aspects of their well-being. It is easy to overextend ourselves and people can take advantage of it. Unsustainable work practices and poor working conditions are a significant part of the overall viability of the profession into the future. We suffer and sacrifice leisure time for competitive desire or conformity work culture or fear of not being viewed as a team player. We give up our today to meet ever moving goalposts, in the hope that one day, we will start my own practice. We should also be more careful when pursuing things we imagine will spare us anxiety. We can pursue them by all means, but for reasons other than for some fantasies. We will still be anxious when we finally have the house, the love affair and the money. Growing aspirations for more expensive lifestyles, reflected in rapidly increasing house prices, are dominating some people’s lives. We become habituated to the stresses and pressures, perhaps until a health problem forces us to consider alternatives. Self-sabotage happens from energy-draining internal discord. Self-sabotage looks like: rejecting praise and compliments, avoid letting people come closer, opening up to others pre-maturely, refusing to do something unless you can do it perfectly, procrastinating, constantly criticizing yourself, isolating when you are hurting. Becoming your own best friend and doing what a best friend would do, when facing your inner critic. New behaviour becomes new thought patterns which can eventually become the dominant pathway. It takes 21 days to make a habit. 3 months to make a lifestyle. Have Faith that you can can take charge of your life. To strive for perfection is to kill love because perfection does not recognize humanity. ~ Marion Woodma It is important to separate from our parent—which is to stop seeing ourselves as children who depend on them for our emotional well-being, to stop being their victims, to recognize that we are adults with some capacity to shape our own lives and the responsibility to do so. You are not your thoughts. You are the Observer of your thoughts. Realise that. We expect the world from people we love, and we do not wish to lower our expectations. We want our parents to embrace us, to tell us they know we were good children, to take back their hurtful criticisms, to give us their praise, to undo the favouritism they've shown to a brother or sister. Once you're feeling that pain or emotion, try and connect it to your past to uncover where that pattern of pain began. Now you need to forgive your parents and let them in again. Strange as it may seem, a grudge is a kind of clinging, a way of not separating, and when we hold a grudge against a parent, we are clinging not just to the parent, but more specifically to the bad part of the parent. Along the way, we may have to express our protest, we may have to be angry and resentful, we may even have to punish our parents by holding a grudge. But when we get there, the forgiveness we achieve will be a forgiveness worth having. Being a highly sensitive person who is a new empath may sometimes seem like a burden, but it is actually a great gift. You are able to experience the zest and zeal of life to a high degree and one that many other people will struggle to attain. Just by showing gratitude for your abilities, you can aid the rejuvenation process. Even though a highly empath person may set excellent limits with energy vampires, it’s common for us to experience a lingering toxic emotions after an interaction, say with a narcissistic boss or a critical spouse, you may need some extra help to remove it. Toxic emotions can linger long afterwards, which can make you feel emotionally exhausted or beset with brain-fog. Catharsis happens when you let yourself feel the emotions at their most vivid – crying when sad, laughing when happy, and screaming when angry. Talking out the situation with a friend or therapist allows you to voice and dispel the negativity. Being heard, seen and witnessed by another person can be incredibly healing. Just having positive experiences is not enough. They pass through the brain like water through a sieve. Positive stimuli is more common, however, human brain has a bias to command more attention to negative stimuli as its easier and grows faster. Avoiding, denying or hiding the reality just makes it worse. Ask yourself what the emotion is trying to tell you – perhaps you feel something is missing from your life in the present moment or maybe you find another person’s behavior unacceptable. Once you have worked out whose feeling it is and where it came from, you can begin a dialogue in your mind to find a solution. Go through a quick question and answer session to see if there is something that can be done and then do it. Identification is the key here – working out what the thought is trying to tell you and where it came from is a sure fire way to either own it or dispel it. When you see the fears as separate from you, not part of you, this makes it easier to let them go. You should know that your peace and your joy are products of your own making; while you may feel the world like nobody else, you are also capable of managing it. Trust that what you are experiencing right now is absolutely perfect for your growth. Be empowered, believe in yourself, and practice practice practice. The way to developing and changing yourself and other is by following these steps:-
Desired needs to provide to your hungry sub-conscious to prevent you from going into fear-mode:
2. Variety (some variety brings the spark back into your eyes, too much variety make life dangerous) 3. Significant Work (some two-person collaborations from time-to-time with people who are not your boss/senior) 4. Love & Connections (with people who you mostly don't need to make happy & who make you happy)
6. Contributing (through social organizations) Mindful Self-Nurturing"Unconditionally accept yourself, the whole spectrum of all that is you. From the lightest light to the darkest dark. That is how wholeness is achieved. Every single aspect of yourself—especially the parts of yourself where you feel shame and sadness and pain— deserve your love, attention, and recognition." ~ Yumi Sakugawa Don't let life's juggling act distract you from what's truly important…the people you love. Building strong family connections will keep your loved ones bonded for generations. Expand your family circle by reconnecting with first, second and even third cousins! Don't wait for the reunion to come together as a group. Children may not remember their first birthday party or first bath, but a keepsake box can help commemorate those special moments for years to come.
Don't forget to write a meaningful letter to your child—seal your legacy with love. Sometimes, the greatest gift of all is the gift of memories—they last forever and the fun of "opening" them never disappears! To connect with you own child, begin taking your son out to breakfast as a weekly ritual. The breakfast had no agenda other than to give you and your son some time together. Repeatedly asking your children questions about their lives and sharing what happens in your life away from home will help your children open up. Be persistent and patient. By choosing books with topics that adolescents deal with, the book discussions will create an opportunity for everyone to talk openly about important issues, including developing sexuality and relationships with friends. when your children leave give them gifts that symbolize freedom and responsibility—a basic cookbook etc. encourage them to check in at least once a week, whether it's with an e-mail update every Friday or a Sunday morning phone call.
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