Spirituality means:
What is Good Connection & Attachment? Most people have no idea what a healthy relationship looks like. I didn't. I made lots of unhealthy connections. No one tells you these things.
Salaam, I am not mad at you. Should I be? Maybe I am a bit angry. I don't know why. Maybe its because I feel alive when I am angry, otherwise I feel like my life is like someone sitting near a grave. I do not know how to grief when something has ended. Should I pretend and talk about stuff that will take your mind off instead? Do not worry about me. I only thank the powers that are, that I met you. I still cannot figure out why we click. You made me come alive when I did not believe I could. Everyone is sad when something comes to its end. Some people cry and then feel better. I don't want us to end but make a new beginning. I'll always think good of you where ever I am. Everything that has a beginning also has an end. That's the cycle of life, so don't feel one bit sad. You will be just fine, with or without me; and the same for me too. So don't try to hold on. You shouldn't hold on. I love you and I always will. Please don't make this harder than it is for yourself. I can't bear the thought that, you keep thinking of me and are feeling sad. You are a good person and good things will happen to you. But don't expect life to be fair. We know it isn't. I am here, for now, listening to you .... far away in body but not in my heart. yours, (2007) Romantic love is temporary. Sharing experiences of daily struggles in life, can grow a love, with the right person. I think we specifically seek out or choose partners, who often appear to possess, a part of our lost self. We often become attracted to people, who were hurt at the same point and had failed to healthy responses. Instead of looking for a partner, I must grow those parts in me that I had sought in a partner.
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Your inner child needs forgiveness for internalizing the negative things repeatedly said by adults who betrayed you as a child with their words. Whatever people said is not the reality, and so reject their words. Learn to accept as you are without judgement. Skills for Resilience: |
Too many people feel like they need to work harder when they struggle to focus. But this strategy is likely to backfire. When anxiety occurs, unconsciously, the mind keeps working without resting and defence mechanisms are automatically triggered (directly builds up hostility and aggressiveness behaviour). When you cannot flee or flight, one may just freeze, feel dizziness and have sleep issues. If you had 4 or 5 hours of sleep, then you need 2 weeks of good sleep to recover. 'When you eat is more important than what you eat'. |
"There is a common myth in society that we have to earn or prove our worth by ticking off a certain number of external achievements — like having a large house, successful career, impressive partner and acceptable body shape. If you base your self worth on the external world, you’ll never be capable of self-love. The truth is your worth is innate — you were born enough. You are a changing as a person from who you were so leave the past but your true inner self is of divine origins and you can never be anything less than that. You did not come here to prove — you came here to play and laugh and love and learn and express and rise and create your wildest dreams. Replace self-criticism with praise and acknowledge, and not only will your confidence grow, but you will blossom into your full potential, because flowers bloom best with nourishment and love, not judgment."
With chronic stress + un-processed trauma, we end up stuck in "polyvagal" states, meaning the body can't return back to balance (homeostasis). So we start experiencing symptoms that come from chronic nervous system dysregulation like: anxiety, panic, depression, addiction, "mood swings." These are mistaken as mental disorders.
Some people cannot get on with life (disassociation) because their decision-making process is crashes, due to overwhelming information coming in. In fact, the more information you pull in, the harder it becomes to process it and come to a decision.
Another reason some people cannot prevent freeze (disassociation) and get on with life, is because they face something bad, that is going to happen, from which they can neither fight off the threat, nor run away to safety.
Another reason some people cannot prevent freeze (disassociation) and get on with life, is because they face something bad, that is going to happen, from which they can neither fight off the threat, nor run away to safety.
Persistent anxiety can be rooted from real (e.g. dog-bites) or unconscious fear even if there is no danger.
- Short-term stress raises cortisol levels (the so-called stress hormone) for short periods and can jump-start our Adrenalin and motivate us to perform more efficiently in response to impending deadlines.
- Long-term stress, however, can lead to prolonged increases in cortisol and can be toxic to the brain.
Symptoms of acute stress disorder caused by traumatic stress: - palpitations (pounding heart), - headache, - inability to focus, - sleep disturbances, - irritable mood, - angry outbursts, | Your triggers can be: Overworking Last minute work changes Exams or Presentations Toxic people Reminders of past trauma Family conflict Crowds Feeling "trapped" | Anxiety is not only worry, it can also look like: Anhedonia Socially withdrawing Irritation Obsessive behaviours Overworking Over-indulging Dizziness / Apatheic or Numbness Lack of Concentration Sleepiness / Insomnia Avoiding conversation Emotionally distant |
“Anything that relaxes you will also help with memory, as relaxation engages the parasympathetic nervous system” Aleksandra Parpura
Creativity doesn’t necessarily happen between 9am to 5pm. It can take many years to build up our skills and we are nearly all dependent on having an understanding people to work for. Creativity is a problem-solving process of trying out and finding relationships, by putting seemingly different old ideas, images, materials etc together. There has to be strong and clear justifications that lead our decisions process, as we take what we know and change it to make a new thing out of it. Even though a highly empath person may set excellent limits with energy vampires, it’s common for creatives to experience a lingering toxic emotions after an interaction, say with a narcissistic boss or a critical spouse, you may need some extra help to remove it. Toxic emotions can linger long afterwards, which can make you feel emotionally exhausted or beset with brain-fog. However, Caitlin Japa noted if you take away that trait, and you also take away conscience, the ability to empathize, awareness, creativity, and passion.
Our prolonged heightened ‘peak’ experiences can have an unbalancing effect, making us tired and restless during the day and trouble sleeping at night. As we age, our bodies change. These changes impact the length and quality of our sleep. As we age, our bodies secrete less of two important sleep hormones: melatonin and growth hormone. Without good sleep, brain functions 40% less at work and increases depression, anxiety and obesity. You are also unfocused and forgetful. You not only lose control over your mood but also the ability to pay attention, solve problems and be creative. It becomes dangerous for everyone on the road since it gets hard to remain alert and responsive (especially, like me, if you have to ride a bike to get to work).
Our prolonged heightened ‘peak’ experiences can have an unbalancing effect, making us tired and restless during the day and trouble sleeping at night. As we age, our bodies change. These changes impact the length and quality of our sleep. As we age, our bodies secrete less of two important sleep hormones: melatonin and growth hormone. Without good sleep, brain functions 40% less at work and increases depression, anxiety and obesity. You are also unfocused and forgetful. You not only lose control over your mood but also the ability to pay attention, solve problems and be creative. It becomes dangerous for everyone on the road since it gets hard to remain alert and responsive (especially, like me, if you have to ride a bike to get to work).
Is it really right that burnout and related mental health issues are seen as the inevitable price that we pay for doing inspired work? The desire to stay in this race leads many to work longer and harder, often at the cost of other aspects of their well-being. It is easy to overextend ourselves and people can take advantage of it. Unsustainable work practices and poor working conditions are a significant part of the overall viability of the profession into the future. We suffer and sacrifice leisure time for competitive desire or conformity work culture or fear of not being viewed as a team player. We give up our today to meet ever moving goalposts, in the hope that one day, we will start my own practice. We should also be more careful when pursuing things we imagine will spare us anxiety. We can pursue them by all means, but for reasons other than for some fantasies.
We will still be anxious when we finally have the house, the love affair and the money. Growing aspirations for more expensive lifestyles, reflected in rapidly increasing house prices, are dominating some people’s lives. We become habituated to the stresses and pressures, perhaps until a health problem forces us to consider alternatives. Self-sabotage happens from energy-draining internal discord. Self-sabotage looks like: rejecting praise and compliments, avoid letting people come closer, opening up to others pre-maturely, refusing to do something unless you can do it perfectly, procrastinating, constantly criticizing yourself, isolating when you are hurting.
We will still be anxious when we finally have the house, the love affair and the money. Growing aspirations for more expensive lifestyles, reflected in rapidly increasing house prices, are dominating some people’s lives. We become habituated to the stresses and pressures, perhaps until a health problem forces us to consider alternatives. Self-sabotage happens from energy-draining internal discord. Self-sabotage looks like: rejecting praise and compliments, avoid letting people come closer, opening up to others pre-maturely, refusing to do something unless you can do it perfectly, procrastinating, constantly criticizing yourself, isolating when you are hurting.
When we see the world though the filter of our inner critical parent, we give it too much power over our lives. Many years I have given too much power to my over-protective conscious mind or the rational adult side, which has become too loud. I have to encourage to increase my subconscious inner voice and listen to what my subconscious inner childhood voice is saying. The child has important information that needs to be heard.
I have to regularly practice how to be child-like open and curious so that I can progress in personal and professional life (inner child be healthy and my mentor), but also when to not get affected by the negativity from inner protective parent or childhood memory triggers, that fuel intense feelings of regret, anxiety, fear, despair, and anger. As they say Love the child you have, not the child you wish you had. It can be difficult not to become overwhelmed by negativity. The aim is to bring harmony and self-nurture.
To do that I have to regularly built the habit of checking and approving my own feelings with love in order to strengthen my self-esteem. Anxiety, stress, and worry are all part of what makes us human. They be vital clues that a health issue, relationship or other important matter needs attention. Unpleasant feelings are just as crucial as the enjoyable ones in helping you make sense of life's ups and downs. It is not who you are. It isn’t the emotions themselves causing me to suffer—it’s my own judgment of those emotions. If you are looking for perfection, you will always be unhappy.
I have to regularly practice how to be child-like open and curious so that I can progress in personal and professional life (inner child be healthy and my mentor), but also when to not get affected by the negativity from inner protective parent or childhood memory triggers, that fuel intense feelings of regret, anxiety, fear, despair, and anger. As they say Love the child you have, not the child you wish you had. It can be difficult not to become overwhelmed by negativity. The aim is to bring harmony and self-nurture.
To do that I have to regularly built the habit of checking and approving my own feelings with love in order to strengthen my self-esteem. Anxiety, stress, and worry are all part of what makes us human. They be vital clues that a health issue, relationship or other important matter needs attention. Unpleasant feelings are just as crucial as the enjoyable ones in helping you make sense of life's ups and downs. It is not who you are. It isn’t the emotions themselves causing me to suffer—it’s my own judgment of those emotions. If you are looking for perfection, you will always be unhappy.
Complex Emotions
The social privilege of our expensive Victorian-style boarding is psychologically double-edged. From age 7, boarding children invariably construct a survival personality but not empathy, that explains why ex-boarder are brittle and defensive, that endures long after school. Strategic survival has many styles: bullying is one; others include keeping your head down, becoming a charming bumbler, or keeping an in-congruently unruffled smile in place. The prevalence of institutionalised abuse is finally emerging to public scrutiny, but the effects of normalised parental neglect are more widespread and much less obvious. The psychological impact of these formative years, to survive both the loss of his family and the demands of boarding school culture, leaves them ill-prepared for relationships in the adult world. Prematurely separated from home and family, from love and touch, they must speedily reinvent themselves as self-reliant pseudo-adults. As children they learn to survive boarding by cutting off their feelings and constructing a defensively organised self that severely limits their later lives. They must not look unhappy, childish or foolish – in any way vulnerable – or they will be bullied by their peers. So they learn to dissociate from their feelings, project them out on to others, and develop duplicitous personalities. They are particularly deficient in non-rational skills needed to sustain relationships. In short, you cannot make good decisions without emotional information; nor see the big picture if your brain has been fed on a strict diet of rationality. Paradoxically, they then struggle to properly mature, since the child who was not allowed to grow up organically gets stranded, as it were, inside them. In consequence, an abandoned child complex within such adults ends up running the show. The boarding child survives, but takes into adulthood a permanent unconscious anxiety. This anachronistic entitlement cannot easily be renounced: it compensates for years without love, touch or family, for a personality under stress, for the lack of emotional, relational and sexual maturation. They can talk about the nation, but not of belonging to it. They cannot conceive of communal solutions, because they haven't had enough belonging at home to understand what it means. To change our society, we'll have to change our education system. But can we really afford this to continue? (Paraphrasing) Wounded Leaders by Nick Duffell | There comes a time when, one by one, all your friends leave and go on to build their own family in different places. Without a support base of family or friends, the stress got the better of me. Slowly, you are only busy with work and there are no longer any friends around. Depression leads to uncontrollable anxiety, insecurity, lack of confidence and procrastination. This energy, life-sucking condition has its stronghold on people like us. When depression and anxiety come to the surface and you can learn to overcome it by giving attention to root cause. Being heard, seen and witnessed by another person can be incredibly healing. Talking out the situation with a friend or therapist allows you to voice and dispel the negativity. Catharsis happens when you let yourself feel the emotions at their most vivid – crying when sad, laughing when happy, and screaming when angry. Just having positive experiences is not enough. They pass through the brain like water through a sieve. One way to resolve deep resentments, bubbling under the surface, since the time you are 4 years to 7 years old, is to by going through this process: You have to close your eyes and imagine that your childhood self was on the other side of an imaginary door. Then you have to open the door and walk to meet that memory of your child self. Then you have to try to talk to your child self with love. As they say, Love the child you have, not the child you wish you had. First time I tried, I failed to talk to my child self. Then I came back home and slept on it. I then started thinking why this simple task was so difficult for me. Good parenting comes from nurturing rather than a critical place which inspires disobedience. Children who live in houses, where they see parents verbally abusing each other because of money feel scared and need reassurance. Children who were made to feel unlovable can carry that pain throughout their lives, and into every relationship. They are armored and detached, perhaps defensively, or they become “pleasers” in adult relationships, not being able to say ‘no’ wanting a relationship so intense that the other person backs off. Alas, both types aren’t able to get the kind of emotional connection. They are afraid of intimacy on all levels; they are intensely vulnerable, and tend to be clingy and dependent. They oversensitive (about things real and imagined), overthinking everything and make avoidance the default position. It is important to separate from our parent—which is to stop seeing ourselves as children who depend on them for our emotional well-being, to stop being their victims, to recognize that we are adults with some capacity to shape our own lives and the responsibility to do so. Many of our current issues, have its roots hidden in our early childhood. Most of us have two sides. The anti-self is expressed in our inner self-hating coach of negativity. Avoiding, denying or hiding the reality just makes it worse. We generally forget that there is a valuable, worthy human being behind the inappropriate behavior. When we are focused on only treating behavior, we may be quick to dole out punishments or use shaming tactics to gain compliance. Shame has long been wielded as a powerful tool to modify a child’s behavior. When made to feel unworthy, children will usually try harder to please their parents, giving the illusion that it’s “working,” but those feelings of worthlessness cause deep scars which can take a lifetime to heal. Children who were compared with other children because they didn't get good marks in school sometimes grow up feeling that they are “fooling people” and express fear that they’ll be “found out” when they enjoy success in the world. The devil on their shoulders convincing them that they don't measure up. The maternal voice in their head will continue to undermine them, telling them that they aren't — smart, beautiful, kind, loving, worthy. Shame causes people to withdraw from relationships, to become isolated, and they compensate for deep feelings of shame with attitudes of superiority, bullying, self-deprecation, or obsessive perfectionism. When shame has been severe, it can contribute to mental illness.
We expect the world from people we love, and we do not wish to lower our expectations. We want our parents to embrace us, to tell us they know we were good children, to take back their hurtful criticisms, to give us their praise, to undo the favouritism they've shown to a brother or sister. Once you're feeling that pain or emotion, try and connect it to your past to uncover where that pattern of pain began. You are not your thoughts. You are the Observer of your thoughts. Realise that. Now you need to forgive your parents and let them in again. Strange as it may seem, a grudge is a kind of clinging, a way of not separating, and when we hold a grudge against a parent, we are clinging not just to the parent, but more specifically to the bad part of the parent. Along the way, we may have to express our protest, we may have to be angry and resentful, we may even have to punish our parents by holding a grudge. But when we get there, the forgiveness we achieve will be a forgiveness worth having. |
Long-term effects of fear of emotional abandonment:
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"Trauma makes us very selfish and we can't see it unless we are in relationship". If during the formative years of childhood, your inner child took on the message that you are not lovable, that believe can and will cause you a lot of challenges. Unloved children often grow up to be adults who are motivated by avoidance because they are afraid of failing; to them, missteps or mistakes aren’t seen as part of the road to achievement but proof positive that their mothers were right about them after all. When there is pressure in our lives, problems, difficulties or challenges, we become self-critical. We start doubting that what we think, what we feel and what we do is the right thing. You may be afraid to let yourself be vulnerable in a relationship. You might be inadvertently sabotaging relationships.
Taking small steps away from
'survival-mode' > making room for 'living'
Here are some, Desired Needs, to give to your hungry sub-conscious, to help to Stop you from going into fear-mode :
2. Variety (some variety brings the spark back into your eyes, too much variety make life dangerous)
3. Significant Work (some two-person collaborations from time-to-time with people who are not your boss/senior)
4. Love & Connections (with people who you mostly don't need to make happy & who make you happy)
6. Contributing (through social organizations)
- Group-1: Internal Desired Needs to provide to your overtly-hungry sub-conscious, to help grow positively in life :
2. Variety (some variety brings the spark back into your eyes, too much variety make life dangerous)
3. Significant Work (some two-person collaborations from time-to-time with people who are not your boss/senior)
4. Love & Connections (with people who you mostly don't need to make happy & who make you happy)
- Group-2: External Desired Needs to provide to your, (hidden) hungry sub-conscious, to help you find happiness in life::
6. Contributing (through social organizations)
Any human, when they don’t feel seen and heard, will use behavior and communication to amp up their attempts to be seen and heard. Anger isn’t wrong or bad, anger is survival. An angry child is trying to cope and survive the best they know how at that moment. For a small child, a disruption to their everyday rhythm that can be unsettling. Most parents do not realize is that anxiety symptoms in children look a lot like anger issues. The way that we talk to our children becomes their inner voice. A child feeling a sense of anxiety will get angry frequently. A child’s biological need for a close warm and connected relationship with a caregiver is a powerful force that provides a sense of security to allow the child to explore and learn. Expressing anger is a quick way for kids to express an underlying sense of powerlessness. Many sensitive, spirited, intense and highly emotional children inherently have to work harder to manage their big emotions.
Positive stimuli is more common, however, human brain has a bias to command more attention to negative stimuli as its easier and grows faster. Most people see themselves as different, not in some positive or special way, but in a negative sense. Even people who seem well-adjusted and well-liked in their social circles have deep-seated feelings of being an outcast or a fraud. This feeling about ourselves is common. Being a highly sensitive person who is a new empath may seem like a burden, but it is actually a great gift which can also allow you to be able to experience the zest of life to a higher degree and one that many other people will struggle to attain. Empathy, understanding, acceptance, and unconditional positive regard are all necessary but not sufficient. Just by showing gratitude for your abilities, you can aid the rejuvenation process. You need to learn to grow self-compassion in order to be able to be kind. Becoming your own best friend and doing what a best friend would do, when facing your inner critic. Find the solace within and be. You must develop real Courage and Kindness to the areas that are in pain, caring for yourself as you would care for a small child i.e having true confidence, humility and consideration for others. | I have a problem with my emotions in my mind. My Driver of Anxiety is due being stuck in a negative cycle, fighting with myself, instead of Doing & then moving on. How we react to events is far more important than what actually happens to us. When we have a big obstacle, for a brief second, we weigh the challenges. It can be difficult not to become overwhelmed by negativity that fuel intense feelings of regret, anxiety, fear, despair, and anger. It isn’t the emotions themselves causing me to suffer—it’s my own judgment of those emotions. The mood is no sign that our lives have gone wrong, merely that we are alive. Your peace and your joy are products of your own making; while you may feel the world like nobody else, you are also capable of managing it. Ask yourself what the emotion is trying to tell you – perhaps you feel something is missing from your life in the present moment, or maybe you find another person’s behavior unacceptable. Once you have worked out whose feeling it is and where it came from, you can begin a dialogue in your mind to find a solution. Go through a quick question and answer session to see if there is something that can be done and then do it. Identification is the key here – working out what the thought is trying to tell you and where it came from is a sure fire way to either own it or dispel it. When you see the fears as separate from you, not part of you, this makes it easier to let them go. |
It's important not to blame yourself as this is a process of self-healing. Refocus on the next baby steps. Feeling stress & anxiety, are (biological and psychological) responses that are designed to keep us safe in situations we are not familiar with. Instead of running from negative emotions, accept them and keep reassuring yourself. There will always be someone who can't see your worth. Don't let it be you. It is never late to give your inner child the love you deserve. Self-compassionate experience is hard for many due to internalized feelings of unworthiness and self-criticism. Don't expect your inner critic to stop criticising. It's not the inner critic's job to acknowledge the process. It's your job to keep telling yourself not to feel guilty & you are strong. As they say, Love the child you have, not the child you wish you had. Trust in yourself that you will always find a way.
Self-Care that help during depressive episodes:-
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The way to developing and changing yourself and other is by following these steps:-
You have a choice of either not learning and repeating this pattern, which will only get worse, or you can slowly overcome it in time if you understand and learn how to keep your mind healthy. Trust (Faith) that what you are experiencing right now is absolutely perfect for your growth. New behaviour becomes new thought patterns, which can eventually become the dominant pathway. Visualizing is important, results are important, however, what’s more important is falling in love and re-directing solely on the PROCESS of relaxing & enjoying the things you do and not based your validation with the result. Believe in yourself that you can take charge of your life, and practice practice practice. It takes 21 days to make a habit. 3 months to make a lifestyle. 4 hrs / week for 10 months!
When you do not learn how to recognise your negative subconscious, then you will fail to judge your situation correctly. It is like a blind spot that you are not aware of and result in accidents. Until we have identified and separated yourself from your negative subconscious, we will self-sabotage and cannot go forward in life. Ask yourself what the emotion is trying to tell you – perhaps you feel something is missing from your life in the present moment, or maybe you find another person’s behavior unacceptable. Once you have worked out whose feeling it is and where it came from, you can begin a dialogue in your mind to find a solution.
- It has to be Personalised
- It has to be always Positive thing
- The issue has to be in the immediate Present tense
- Detailed Visualization affirmations (holding your mind in positive emotional state) so that subconscious mind begins to match it
- It has too arry strong Emotions
You have a choice of either not learning and repeating this pattern, which will only get worse, or you can slowly overcome it in time if you understand and learn how to keep your mind healthy. Trust (Faith) that what you are experiencing right now is absolutely perfect for your growth. New behaviour becomes new thought patterns, which can eventually become the dominant pathway. Visualizing is important, results are important, however, what’s more important is falling in love and re-directing solely on the PROCESS of relaxing & enjoying the things you do and not based your validation with the result. Believe in yourself that you can take charge of your life, and practice practice practice. It takes 21 days to make a habit. 3 months to make a lifestyle. 4 hrs / week for 10 months!
When you do not learn how to recognise your negative subconscious, then you will fail to judge your situation correctly. It is like a blind spot that you are not aware of and result in accidents. Until we have identified and separated yourself from your negative subconscious, we will self-sabotage and cannot go forward in life. Ask yourself what the emotion is trying to tell you – perhaps you feel something is missing from your life in the present moment, or maybe you find another person’s behavior unacceptable. Once you have worked out whose feeling it is and where it came from, you can begin a dialogue in your mind to find a solution.
"Unconditionally accept yourself, the whole spectrum of all that is you. From the lightest light to the darkest dark. That is how wholeness is achieved. Every single aspect of yourself—especially the parts of yourself where you feel shame and sadness and pain— deserve your love, attention, and recognition." ~ Yumi Sakugawa
'When we can’t focus at work because of distractions, it may lead us to feel stressed about not being productive, which then causes us to focus less, further feeding the cycle. Fortunately, there are things we can do to break the cycle. Pay attention to the causes of your stress and inability to focus and then take actions that promote improvements in the specific brain functions that drive concentration and awareness.' ~Kandi Wiens
If your life is a ship then the Captain of the ship is the thinking part of the brain, which has only 30% max capacity. The rest of the 70% is your subconscious part of your mind, which is the team member helping you to run the ship. When the Captain is not competent, then your team members will sabotage your ship and your power. You have to learn to be a good Captain so that your team will work with you and not against you to run the ship in the right direction.
This things happens to everybody in life but we should learn how to manage our negative subconscious. This issues can arise in any stage of your life but how it manifest may differ. If we fight with our team we will only end up injuring the ship, since both the hero & villain are within us, so we cannot fight with ourselves. The inner conflict is due to negative learning/messages by our subconscious that was formed by experiences, like shame or fear etc, when we were 3 to 7 years old. We have to learn how to unlearn the negative childhood lessons.
To do good work you must be able to go into your Zone. You will not be able do that when you fail to handle the early negative learning/messages in your subconscious which is projected out of you bad habits & behaviours (e.g pricking skin, biting nails, spending/shopping & even if you are an overachiever who cannot enjoy your success but keep jumping into more work).
This things happens to everybody in life but we should learn how to manage our negative subconscious. This issues can arise in any stage of your life but how it manifest may differ. If we fight with our team we will only end up injuring the ship, since both the hero & villain are within us, so we cannot fight with ourselves. The inner conflict is due to negative learning/messages by our subconscious that was formed by experiences, like shame or fear etc, when we were 3 to 7 years old. We have to learn how to unlearn the negative childhood lessons.
To do good work you must be able to go into your Zone. You will not be able do that when you fail to handle the early negative learning/messages in your subconscious which is projected out of you bad habits & behaviours (e.g pricking skin, biting nails, spending/shopping & even if you are an overachiever who cannot enjoy your success but keep jumping into more work).
Witnessing Exercises
(Supreme triad, a single mind expressed in three-forms)
Practising awareness to self (body and mind) with self-love. The mind can be separated into the conscious and the subconscious. They work together to make, you. The third (called mindfulness) is the 'balance' between conscious & unconscious. It can only be achieved by finding out your self-regulatory mechanisms. For that, you need to spend time with your true inner self.
Practice Cultivating Your Awareness, i.e. "noticing stuff in the present": It is essentially about how to start to Self-soothe. Discover your own self-regulatory mechanisms by exploring your sensations, your body, sights, sounds and symbolic images that bring you intimacy and seek them out, not only to free it but also to develop it further, as a more sophisticated communication through the creative medium.
Even the ordinary activities of daily life, like making time in your day and week to fill your cup and small acts of self-care, can be times of meditation that free you from the strictures of habit and the tendency to be only half-alive. Taking a short timeout to actively listening to your psyche without getting pulled by your mood swings.
Noticing when you fail to get peace or success is the point of this. The more times you notice you’ve failed, use your failure as fuel and turning it into an integral part of this process. Success in meditation is measured not in terms of whatever may be happening, but rather how we are relating to what is happening. Everything simple or profound has its appointed place, duration and weight. Psyche is reveal the deepest aspects of self expressing of our inner world.
Practice Cultivating Your Awareness, i.e. "noticing stuff in the present": It is essentially about how to start to Self-soothe. Discover your own self-regulatory mechanisms by exploring your sensations, your body, sights, sounds and symbolic images that bring you intimacy and seek them out, not only to free it but also to develop it further, as a more sophisticated communication through the creative medium.
Even the ordinary activities of daily life, like making time in your day and week to fill your cup and small acts of self-care, can be times of meditation that free you from the strictures of habit and the tendency to be only half-alive. Taking a short timeout to actively listening to your psyche without getting pulled by your mood swings.
Noticing when you fail to get peace or success is the point of this. The more times you notice you’ve failed, use your failure as fuel and turning it into an integral part of this process. Success in meditation is measured not in terms of whatever may be happening, but rather how we are relating to what is happening. Everything simple or profound has its appointed place, duration and weight. Psyche is reveal the deepest aspects of self expressing of our inner world.
If you feel overwhelmed by thoughts or feelings or emotions, use awareness of your breath to anchor your attention to your body. Breath by expanding your lungs, and release by letting your stomach out. Notice whatever has captured your attention, then let go of the thought or feeling, and return to the awareness of the breath. It's important not to blame yourself. You are Not your automatic triggers. Relaxation technique: “squeeze and relax” your body muscles. Completely let go of your limbs, imagine they are cotton candies, and do very slow baby rolls using your pelvis. Do not let gravity to do the work. Notice your body rotation, gravity and movement. Focus on your core muscle leading you to roll and your limbs only follow it. |
Active ELEMENT Meditation Exercises = What you need, is to slowly practice your brain to focus on the present, on right now, do your things in a way that is relaxed & enjoyable, instead of thinking about end result or time-bound deliverables.
(strengthen healthy-coping capacities)
The four elements in nature are just elements, it can be anything, but it can help you to build resilient in life by gradually practising awareness or mindfulness. Try to balance your awareness or "noticing stuff in the present" like: the floor, your body sensation as you breathe, each part of your backbone from your pelvis to your neck, your distractions, thoughts that come and go, the four elements etc. Every movement has its appointed place, duration and weight.
- Sacred Earth (Grounding Yourself like long roots & opening your senses to touch): Meditation through dancing-Movement during the day. Move your body to shift your thoughts. Movement of any kind helps the nervous system release the energy. There is a decline of 7-10% of O2 in blood after 12 days of sudden inactivity, 14-15% after 50 days, and 16-18% after 80 days.
- Sacred Water (Receiving the pure Grace): Meditation while immersing yourself in water (Snana) preferably just before sun rise - liberation
- sacred Fire (Cleaning the mind & receiving security): narrate your problems near relentless fire (Agni) - "sacrifice, devotion, worship, offering"
- Sacred Air (Connects the core of your brain to wellspring of God): focusing on your breath for a few minutes. 20 x Active Breathing exercise: Breathe in for 5 seconds. Hold the breath for 3 seconds. Breathe out for 7 seconds
If you pretend, you will be out, sooner or later, until you really change. Don’t try to outdo anyone else or it can backfire. It may mean asking for help or scaling back, which can big a huge challenge. This may involve redefining some boundaries in your career and relationships. Invest in yourself; it will benefit you and those around you. You need to be patient with yourself as you develop yourself. We also tend to learn better when we teach others.
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Health experts project that the economic cost of mental illness worldwide could exceed $16 trillion by2040, with much of the economic burden resulting from lost income & productivity.
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